I’m guilty, too: I see a new year as an opportunity to create a brand new “me.”
I’ve set numerous lofty goals that I think will create my best year.
But most fizzle away by the end of January.
A few make it a bit further into March and April, after some major readjusting and editing.
And only a handful have actually become new habits and a new piece of my identity.
Does this happen to you, too?
How I nearly fell into the trap again
A couple weeks ago I was happily working on my annual review and plan. (Yes, I will always make time for a good planning session.)
Following a new course, I created two lists for 2018:
- Start Doing
- Stop Doing
I was able to fill up the first one quickly. All those big, ideal visions of the sparkling new “Katie” came bubbling up. The dream of my best year was taking shape before my eyes.
The second list on what to stop doing was more challenging.
Things like doing taxes, social media for my business, and watching mindless TV were jotted down.
Then the gremlins started chattering away in my mind, giving me all the reasons why and how I couldn’t stop doing those.
Yet, the optimist popped in and started talking back. It reminded me of changes that I’ve made in the past.
I realized I overlooked a big part of myself.
There is a LOT I’m already doing that fulfills and sustains me.
Taking note of this gap introduced the missing question:
What do I need to keep doing?
As I scrambled to capture the list of things that flooded my brain, I realized this was the most important list for 2018.
- Practiced mindfulness 4 times a week.
- Read 16 books.
- Spent Fridays with my daughter.
- Increased the consistency in connecting with colleagues, peers and clients who I enjoy being around.
- Faced my money fears with my partner.
- Became more aware of my mental dialogue, and when to let the chattering fade away so I can be more present in the moment.
These are all practices, habits, and levels of consciousness that I
want need to continue.
This is the foundation for my best year that I can continue building on.
Now I’d love to hear from you.
Before racing to reinvent yourself, take a moment to think about what you need and want to continue.
What do you need to keep doing in 2018?
Which habits can you build upon?
What do you already possess to make 2018 your best year?
I will wager my highest bet your foundation is more solid than you think.
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